As they say in the classics, “do not speak ill of the dead:. This is advice generally reserved for when someone you didn’t particularly like has died, but one family apparently failed to get the memo when posting an obituary of their mother.
Kathleen Dehmlow, of Minnesota, USA, passed away on May 31, aged 80, leaving behind her two children, Gina and Jay.
As much is made evident in the opening two paragraphs of the obit, which featured in Monday’s issue of the Redwood Falls Gazette.
It’s in the third par that things take a turn, reading “In 1962 she became pregnant by her husband’s brother”.
Oooh, yeah, that’s not the kind of thing you generally mention in someone’s death notice.
“She abandoned her children, Gina and Jay, who were then raised by her parents,” the obituary continued.
“She will not be missed by Gina and Jay, and they understand that this world is a better place without her.”
A note was also made that “she will now face judgement”.
What a burn… literally, I guess, if you believe in hell.
Paragraph 1: ok
Paragraph 2: ok
Paragraph 3: wait
Paragraph 4: OH
Paragraph 5: *airplane flies overhead with a banner reading WELCOME TO HELL MOM* pic.twitter.com/ppV45htrda
— Stu (@RandBallsStu) June 5, 2018
The notice understandably went viral and must have received a pretty intense backlash, as the Gazette removed it from their website on Tuesday.
Speaking to the Star Tribune, Lisa Drafall, general manager of the Gazette, confirmed that it was indeed Kathleen’s family who had paid for the notice to appear in the paper, but was not willing to divulge any further details.
Dwight Dehmlow – a relative who did not specify exactly how he was related to Kathleen – went in to bat for the old duck, saying that while the notice was technically true, “there is a lot of stuff that is missing”.
“The sad thing about this is there is no rebuttal. There is more to it than this. It’s not simple,” he told the Star Tribune.
“She made a mistake 60 years ago, but who hasn’t?” he said. “Has she regretted it over the years? Yes.”